Pity Smity

Sometimes I feel like I'm being excluded. That's not uncommon Halie! I can hear you saying it now. DUH! Who isn't at some point? Well what about when something is only done for you out of pity? You can see the giver of the motion simply felt bad and wanted to do something for your sake, sacrificing their own enjoyment for it. But who wants pity? Pity sucks. Why can't people reach out without it having to be about pity? Can't they see the people around them just waiting and silently begging for their lives to be touched? We get so wrapped up in our little cliches and groups of friends that we fail to notice or just don't have the time to go to the shy, less noticeable people who're desperately wishing the floor would swallow them up and save them from their humiliating lack of social status. Can't we break free and visit with other people? Why CAN'T the painfully shy girl in the corner be the most self assured, popular in the group? Because she hasn't been given the chance. She needs someone to reach out and realize, "Hey you're really amazing! You're a genius!" or "You have major skill!" Talent has to be recognized to grow. Confidence has to be discovered and encouraged to grow likewise. I love my friends. This group, "My friends" encompasses a massive range of beautiful amzing and talented people which is ever growing bigger! There are artsy types, fashion designers, architects, missionaries, cops, engineers, vets, doctors, nurses, lawyers, authors, teachers, beauticians, stay at home moms, mechanics, and inumerable others! Where will these people be without the right kind of support? They need us. And not only that! We need them! If you're reading this and you're my friend, or even if you're just an acquaintance, I want to talk to you! I want you to know that I never talk to people out of pity, I talk to people because I KNOW they and truly wonderful people and have potential as a child of God to be so much more than what they are now if they're hiding out in a corner berating themselves with low self esteem. I mean how can you not be great? You have natural talent, everyone does. You just have to find it. I'm told my natural talent is writin, which I love doing. But many people have several talents if they're willing to look and fine tune them, paying great care to the gifts bestowed upon them. Sometimes people don't talk to you for awhile and you think they're avoiding you. But are they? Is it your own assumption that's causing you pain? So many people are afraid to go to someone and adress something because they are afraid of disapproval or awkward moments or other things. But in the end would it not be worth it? I make it a habit of mine to regularly point out the obvious, whether bound to create awkwardness or not. I want to say things that no one else says, be someone no one else is, be a little weird. And I want to reach out and pull as many people down with me as I can! We can be fun and make complete fools of ourselves and not care. We can be free to practice whatever it is we want to, to do as we please and everything we hope for. But at the end of the day what are you going to remember? If you reached out and gained a new friend it would hopefully most definitely be that! What about winning every game, smiling like a champion and making every hilarious joke of the night? It's something to be proud of I must admit. But will you remember it in ten years? I can tell you you'll be much more thankful for the person standing by your side and defending you as a friend in the future than the memory of a few seconds of popularity earned by your corny joke. At least I would think so, if not then I suggest two simple remedies. ONE you could bang your head against a wall and yell "WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?!" or two, live a long lonely life... Ouch! Everyone has their benefits and good support, all they need is a return support and encouraging discovery. I just want all my friends and family to know now without a shadow of a doubt: I love you! Never be afraid to tell me anything, to come to me, or to ask for help. Because I love you pretty much unconditionally and for my teenage friends, I can take it. I certainly need you at times, and I know you're all there for me, which is why you are so pricelessly valuable to me. I love you